When is a man, a real man?

[gchalifo]

seriously, this post is not for fun and jokes. This is a post to get some real men to share their thoughts on being a real man.

some of you will say.... "hey g!!! check your meds man...", others will give some real input.

As a husband 1st, then father, and son, brother, uncle and "poopa", I have to keep a close eye on the "real man" in me. Because drugs, alcohol, porn, irresponsibility and all kinds of physical and emotional abuse was my lot for many years.....so I MUST BE VIGILANT and guard against the deceiver.....

- I tell my wife I love her everyday, multiple times, because I do.
- I tell my children I love them everyday, because I do.
- I tell my God I love him everyday, because I do.
- I look in the mirror every morning, and every evening and ask myself if I have been the man God designed me to be today, and if I have fallen short, I make my amends asap.
- I try to let everyone I talk to, txt with, socialize with, email with and yes, post on this forum that I am who I am because my God is working in my life every day. I'm thankful this thanksgiving 2012, for the encouragement of people like those on this forum. The real men who have encouraged me and inspired me to be positive and make a positive impact on the people in my life circle every single day.

be real..........men

[twicechosen]

If this was a Facebook posting I would hit the like button. Thanks for sharing and being a real man!

[Jbat]

Real men do what needs to be done to a) take care of their family b) take care of themselves c) own up to their fu€k-ups and make it right. Basically pull their own weight and take responsibility seriously. Real men also are not afraid to share there opinions and views...and they don't get butthurt when someone disagrees with them. It's healthy, it's what makes us all different and is what makes this country what it is (something that I love dearly). Thanks for sharing


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[Rapomcar]

Wow this is very serious stuff brother. I had to read this for the second time round to appreciate the basic truth that man is inherently evil and that we are saved by grace given to us freely by our creator, otherwise known as God. With God in your life, your journey and purpose in life will flow from Him. Thanks for sharing bro and keep the faith.

[parkinglot]

I feel being a real man, above and beyond all other things, is to have the ability to open your heart and offer a stranger the gift if your kindness. Everything mentioned so far is true, but ultimately...if you dont have the balls or compassion in your heart to open a hand to a perfect stranger,what are you really worth. I've met many men in my days on this rock. I have met very few real men. Just my 2 cents..

[capttwb]

Honor, courage and commitment in everything you do.

[gchalifo]

10-4 bruh!

So this brings to mind the story of the "jelly doughnut"....goes like this;

I was at one of my 7am AA meetings some 6 years ago, on one of my annual "get healthy" wagons, trying to eat healthy. When I walked through the door of the AA hall, there was a dozen doughnuts calling my name. I managed to ignore them for the 1 hour meeting, but when it came time to leave, i could not resist. Grabbed one on my way out the door.

On my way to my truck, doughnut in hand, I noticed this homeless kid sitting crouched in the corner of the building outside in the cold. I walked right by him over to my truck across the street. When I inserted the key, it wouldn't unlock my truck door. tried several times, changing the doughnut from one hand to the other.

Then it hit me.....someone was trying to tell me to bring that doughnut back across the street, and offer it to that kid sitting in the corner of the building.

Service!!!!, servants attitude, being a giver, and not always a consumer!!!! Keeping my eyes, ears and heart open to God speaking to me through people, places and things.....

Oh, and btw, that "kid on the corner", still walks the streets of Webster mass. to this day, searching for nasty clinches in the butt cans, and food in the trash cans. WTF!!!! God has a way of messing with us doesn't he!!!!

Originally Posted by parkinglot

I feel being a real man, above and beyond all other things, is to have the ability to open your heart and offer a stranger the gift if your kindness. Everything mentioned so far is true, but ultimately...if you dont have the balls or compassion in your heart to open a hand to a perfect stranger,what are you really worth. I've met many men in my days on this rock. I have met very few real men. Just my 2 cents..

[Steeda]

Being a Real man (in Steeda's opinion):

If you say you're going to do something, do it.
Lead by example
Respect Women- and teach your boys to be respectful also
Stand up for yourself and your beliefs- but always respect others opinions
Take care of your family first- Wife, Kids, Stepkids, whatever
Be Strong, Both of mind and body.

[kaaihn]

Originally Posted by Jbat

Real men do what needs to be done to a) take care of their family b) take care of themselves c) own up to their fu€k-ups and make it right. Basically pull their own weight and take responsibility seriously. Real men also are not afraid to share there opinions and views...and they don't get butthurt when someone disagrees with them. It's healthy, it's what makes us all different and is what makes this country what it is (something that I love dearly). Thanks for sharing

I agree 100% with the above statement. Very well put.

[BIGDADDY1966]

The true measure of a man is in what he leaves behind...but a REAL MAN is...... ALL OF THE ABOVE!!!!